Episode 075: Marry. Divorce. Repeat with Leanne Linsky & The Boyfriend

By Help Person|July 10, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 075: Marry. Divorce. Repeat. with Leanne Linsky & The Boyfriend Have you OR are you willing to remarry your spouse? 02:00 Have you ever relapsed with a relationship? Gone back to the ex? Did you remarry? Leanne asks The Boyfriend and he has. He’s gone back to continue the relationship and back to someone just to hook up. It turns out it never worked out. Obviously, since he’s here with Leanne. 06:35 The Boyfriend explains that when he did get back together with one of his exes, who we’ll call Marsha. Marsha turned out to be unstable and stalker-ish. This is The Boyfriend’s way of saying she’s a crazy bitch. Marsha did end up getting professional help afterward. The Boyfriend said that Marsha actually started hitting herself, literally beating herself up in front of him. He had to restrain her and her friends had to come pick herup and help out. The Boyfriend has not spoken to Marsha since. 08:32 The Boyfriend hastried making things work with some of his other exes, but people don’t change. He thinks that when we’re younger there’s more opportunity to make it work and we have a bigger chance of trying to change or make it work. But

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Episode 065: Divorce-Proofing Your Marriage

By Help Person|May 2, 2018|Uncategorized|

Episode 065 Divorce-Proofing Your Marriage We’re back again! The Boyfriend is still not feeling well so they’re keeping a safe distance from everyone so you don’t get sick, too. This week the discussion is all about divorce-proofing your marriage. Leanne and The Boyfriend happened to purchase a copy of TIME The Science of Marriage, All About Attraction * What Keeps Love Strong * Making the Union Last. Their discussion is all about the article, 10 Ways to Make Your Marriage Divorce-Proof, by Samantha Bee and Jason Jones.     Our summary of Samantha and Jason’s ten tips: Agreeing on the household chores Imagine your partner as a small child No fighting in public Have a backbone! Procrastinate Sex. Do it. – Note – this discussion was edited out due to load traffic noises… Alone time Fight while walking, but not around your friends Share your routine Thoughtful gifts rather than appliances Leanne and The Boyfriend take a closer look at each of these tips and share what works for them in a relationship.  The Boyfriend mentioned that he goes to the grocery store and Leanne manages the laundry. This is because Leanne really hates going to the grocery store. She shares how grocery shopping stresses

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Episode 062: Thoughts from Mom-Nonymous

By Help Person|April 10, 2018|Thoughts from Mom-nonymous, Uncategorized|

Episode 062: There’s No Magic Wand in Marriage with special guest Griff Today We heard from Griff. He shared some of his thoughts as a young man in the Army. So many of his buddies were already married that it opened up his thoughts on the subject. Before long, he too was married. But with military life and extended time apart, Griff once again found himself liking his own space. Griff discussed divorce with his wife and she agreed. But he was not going to walk away without her getting a better car. After being single for a few years he met someone new and married again. They shared similar thoughts on religion, finances, and what family life would be in their future. A good foundation for having children. They did have two daughters and a son. Griff advice to his own children as they enter the world of relationshipos would be not to judge each and to remember that marriage is a long term investment. People are all individuals and should be treated as such. When it comes to holidays, you shouldn’t let extended families put guilt on you if you want to do your own things that are special to your wife and kids Through self-awareness and

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Episode 062 There’s No Magic Wand in Marriage

By Help Person|April 10, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 062 There’s No Magic Wand in Marriage with special guest Griff Leanne and The Boyfriend discuss how getting married is not magic. There is no magic wand or magic fairy dust that makes everything awesome. People often get focused on planning a wedding event and gifts, dresses, photos, etc. and forget about taking care of each other in the process. If a relationship isn’t working before the wedding, chances are it’s not going to work after. 07:57 Meet Griff! Griff is a divorcee who happens to be a friend of Leanne’s. Griff shares his journey through divorce and how he has learned to apply his life lessons and become more mindful. 09:20 Griff has been divorced since 1996 after a 4-year marriage. He was first married at 22 while he was in the military. He was in the Army stationed in Georgia, and he had a part-time job as a radio announcer. Griff met his wife while working at the radio station and they ended up getting married about a year later. 11:17 Griff felt like he was in a place where he should be evolving. He wasn’t happy just being by himself. All his friends were married. He says maybe it was a

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Episode 061 Seeing the bigger (legal) picture

By Help Person|April 3, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 61 Use the Divorce Process to Set Yourself up for Success with special guest Marilyn B. Chinitz Welcome to another wonderful week of divorce! This week Leanne and The Boyfriend discuss the legalities of divorce. Leanne had the same attorney for both divorces. The process was fairly simple and Leanne and her husbands shared the same lawyer. There was no point in getting separate lawyers. They had nothing to argue about. Leanne and her husband (both of them) kept it simple and fair. They agreed on how to split their assets and took that information to the attorney. The attorney filed all the paperwork and it was over in a couple of months.   10:46 Meet Marilyn Chinitz! Marilyn Chinitz is a formidable advocate for her clients, guiding them through some of the most challenging transitions in their lives. She concentrates her practice in matrimonial law, particularly high-net-worth divorce actions. Marilyn is a skillful negotiator whose numerous high-profile and celebrity cases have received national and international attention. She has more than 35 years of experience in every facet of family law, including: complex divorce actions involving diverse transactional matters high-conflict custody cases international custody cases including the return of abducted children in proceedings filed under

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Episode 058: Narcissist Abuse Support

By Help Person|March 13, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 058: Narcissist Abuse Support with special Guest Tracy Malone Leanne and The Boyfriend review the question of the week and give shout outs to our followers. They announce that they are now on Pinterest. This week’s topic is….Divorce! Specifically, about learning lessons. Leanne and The Boyfriend discuss taking a step back after a break up and assessing what worked and what didn’t. What about those situations that are not so obvious? Sometimes we can get outside support and other times it takes more than that. 06:35 Tracy Malone was a victim of narcissistic abuse and has decided to educate the world on the red flags and signs of abuse. She started a YouTube channel that has reached over 350,000 all over the world, her website NarcissistAbuseSupport.com has quickly earned ratings of being in the top 50 narcissist abuse websites. She now coaches victims of abuse, hosts live support groups and her Facebook group has almost 4500 members from all over the world. Upon learning about narcissists Tracy figured out why she was a target and why her divorce was called by the judge in her case as ‘the most tortured divorce in her town’s history’. She will share with us some of her tips

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Episode 056: Damsel in Defense

By Help Person|February 27, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 056: Damsel in Defense with special guest Jennifer Lester aka Stun Gun Jen The New Year often brings new relationships and Leanne and The Boyfriend want you to be safe. They’re not just talking about safe sex. They’re talking about keeping you safe from any physical harm. 03:15 Meet Stun Gun Jen! Jen is an Independent Crystal Director with Damsel in Defense and dating expert. She found her second (and amazing) husband online, but BOY did she kiss a lot of frogs in her time. Leanne met Jen about three years ago at a networking event in Huntington Beach, CA. She’s since been busy with her business, Damsel in Defense. Leanne mispronounces her business name as Damsel in Distress and Jen tells The Boyfriend NOT to edit that out because that’s exactly what her business is preventing. With Damsel in Defense you’re never in distress again. Damsel in Defense equips, empowers, and educates people on self-defense. Jen offers at home empower hours, just like a good old-fashioned Tuperware parties. If you’re not comfortable carrying a weapon, that’s okay. They teach women how to be self aware, especially in the day and age of cell phones. 08:35 Social media changed things. We’ve become less aware

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Episode 055: Thoughts from Mom-nonymous

By Help Person|February 21, 2018|Thoughts from Mom-nonymous, Uncategorized|

Episode 055: Real vs Reality Relationships with special guest Rhonda Richards-Smith  Your guest today is so exciting! Rhonda is a psychotherapist relationship expert –the top in the field of dating and relationships. Rhonda cautions us against asking relationship advice from friends and family who aren’t content with their own marriages or relationships. They many not the best source of help to for you. When it comes to finding the ideal mate, consider making yourself a list of who you feel would be best suited for you. Be clear and positive on this matter as it is about your future. Re-evaluate past your past relationship or marriage and admit what didn’t work. Reflect on why and what part you played in it’s failure. You might want to take a break from dating right away. Clear your mind and take notes on how to improve on yourself, and speak positively about yourself. Surround yourself with friends with positive qualities. As you date, be selective and confident. Don’t settle if you are not ready.. If you have doubts, move on and don’t let others predict your heartbreak. Rhonda, you give great advice on relationships and dating. After having listened to this podcast, I marvel how the times have changed. Your work has

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Episode 055: Real vs Reality Relationships

By Help Person|February 20, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 55: Real vs. Reality Relationships with special guest Rhonda Richards-Smith Leanne and The Boyfriend discuss celebrity gossip and the fact that The Boyfriend doesn’t follow any celebrity anything.  Although he did hear that Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston recently ran into each other, The Boyfriend says Leanne is enough to worry about. LLD’s blogger, Mom-nonymous LOVES celebrity gossip so she’ll love this episode. 05:30 Rhonda Richards-Smith is an award-winning psychotherapist & relationship expert. Her advice has been featured in US Weekly Magazine, The Huffington Post, BravoTV, Ebony Magazine, Teen Vogue and Glamour Magazine among others. In 2016, she was inducted into the inaugural “Women of Worth” class for her leadership in the mental health and relationship space by Los Angeles-based company, Worthy Women. In 2017, Match.com CEO Mandy Ginsberg also named her as one of the top dating and relationship experts in the country. Withover 15 years of experience, Rhonda is passionate about helping people improve their personal lives, relationships with others and overall emotional health. Rhonda is married with two daughters who happen to be selling Girl Scout Cookies. Reach out to Rhonda and order yours now! Rhonda works with couples, as well as, singles and some celebrities. She often works on articles with

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Episode 052: Teenagers, Communication, & Divorce

By Help Person|January 30, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 052: Teenagers, Communication, & Divorce with special guest Julie Smith Welcome to our 52nd episode! Leanne and The Boyfriend discuss technology, specifically social media. The Boyfriend is very tech savvy but has no digital footprint. Leanne, on the other hand, stays pretty current with social media. Inspired by today’s guest, Leanne did a Google search for confession sites or vent rooms. Her search turned up churches and HVAC information. After refining her search, she found Muttr.com. This is a site where you can anonymously vent about whatever it is you need to get off your chest. Site’s such as this are very popular among younger generations and if you have kids/teens, this is something you probably want to know about this. Things have changed a lot since Leanne and The Boyfriend were kids. Today’s guest really sheds some light on today’s teens. 06:52 Meet Julie Smith, licensed psychotherapist, award-winning author and featured TEDx speaker, is an expert in the study of human behavior, specifically adolescent behavior. She has created pioneering workshops and courses such as What to Do When and SpeakTeen to help parents and professionals connect with teens while also dispelling the myths of adolescent (mis)behavior. Julie, a single parent, not only works

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