Episode 074: Independence Day

By Help Person|July 4, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 074: Independence Day with Leanne Linsky and The Boyfriend Happy Fourth of July! In honor of the holiday, let’s talk about maintaining your independence in relationships. Leanne and The Boyfriend talk about how they’ve remained, or not remained, independent. Leanne always starts out independent in relationships, but sometimes (depending on the relationship) it goes sideways. It seems like there is one person in the couple who is more independent than the other. Or as The Boyfriend says, the alpha person. Maybe one person is more invested in the relationship. Maybe it ebbs and flows as the relationship evolves over time. Independence is not the same as invested. Just because someone is independent doesn’t mean they’re not as invested in the relationship. 03:45 The Boyfriend admits that when he isn’t as invested, he does become the more dominant person. He sets the tone. 04:48 So what keeps you independent? We talked about making sure you have hobbies and and work and things to do. But having space or physical distance is everything that makes us independent. Let’s break it down. Independence has several parts – spiritual, physical space or time, emotional or mental, and financial. Spiritual independence can actually be a dealbreaker for some couples

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