Episode 039: Successfully Married Mom of a Divorcee

By lifelafterdivorce|October 31, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 039: Successfully Married Mom of a Divorcee with special guest Anne Leanne and The Boyfriend talk about tradition and religion’s role in the stigma of divorce. They note that many (most?) religions frown upon divorce and as a result, many people do not believe in divorce. Here in the US we combine religion in with the state laws. Leanne and The Boyfriend find it interesting that as the country has progressed in some ways, but not so much when it comes to marriage. As forward-thinking as we think are, why are we still so stuck in the old traditions of marriage? This week’s guest is Anne, wife, grandmother, and mom of a divorcee. Anne has been married for forty-five years and has one son and one daughter. Her daughter has been divorced once, and she had a tough time making that decision because she wanted her mother’s blessing.   Anne has thought about divorce in her own marriage, but would never act on it. When conflicts get to the point where a couple no longer communicates, that’s when things go wrong. Anne reminds herself to step back and reassess the situation. Anne believes the first couple years you’re in the newlywed stage, then you

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Episode 036: Thoughts from Mom-nonyous

By lifelafterdivorce|October 10, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 036: Free to do what I want with special guest Anonyme Such an interesting podcast today. Your guest shared her very different views and taught us all how France does marriage differently. I had only heard about a pact a couple of podcasts ago, your guest clarified it so nicely today. Her first marriage was to a French Basketball Player and she was young. She and her her brother married on the same day, he in a church and her in the courthouse. It was a double wedding and the family celebrated. She was married to a guy who was famous and she soon felt she had lost her own identity. They eventually divorced. Anonyme visited America and liked the opportunities here. She met an American man and was married to him for 3 years. They are still friends even though he did remarry. A few years later this sexy blonde French woman met number three. He was a businessman who provided for her very well. They had a son. Her husband very committed to his work, and Anonyme finished her education and got her degree. She and her son traveled the world together. Tired of belonging to someone, she divorced number three after eleven

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Episode 036: I’m Free To Do What I Want

By lifelafterdivorce|October 10, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 036: I’m Free To Do What I Want with special guest Anonyme Leanne and The Boyfriend catch up on the previous week’s “Question of the Week”. And…they give some shout outs to all who commented on Instagram. The Boyfriend and Leanne discuss dating traditional people in the past. The women The Boyfriend has dated in the past have had a timeline, agenda, and/or expectations. For example, we date, get married, have kids by a certain age, etc. It doesn’t necessarily work out for The Boyfriend because he’s gone down a different path in his life. Leanne on the other hand, graduated college, got married, attempted to start a family, etc. It just seemed like the natural flow of a relationship and life. That’s just what people do. Right? But does that flow of life work in today’s society? So many things in the world have changed, but somehow we expect relationships to remain the same. Is that a contributing factor to the high divorce rate? People change jobs all the time today. People move and change houses. Why wouldn’t they change their relationships, too? How has our life purpose changed? So many questions! Meet our guest, Ms. Anonyme (that’s Anonymous in French!). She’s been

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Episode 034: Thoughts from Mom-nonymous

By lifelafterdivorce|September 27, 2017|Thoughts from Mom-nonymous, Uncategorized|

Episode 034: Parenting Your Parents with special guest Samantha Gurewitz Samantha Gurewitz had a Mom who has been married a few times. She and husband #3 bought Samantha into this world. Her mom then divorced and married #4. This guy wasn’t very nice, they fought all the time and that is what Samantha lived with -constant bickering. Samantha didn’t have any rules or direction when dating. She pretty much did what she pleased –sex, drinking, and drugs. No rules or parental input. She was going to marry a guy who cheated/groped another woman. She was going to marry him for insurance. After she spoke up about the lack of a ring, he offered her an ugly ring. She backed out of the wedding at the last minute and they remained a couple. They tried to work it out. They stayed together, but Sam quit doing the things she loved. She even quit improve for awhile. They eventually parted ways. Samantha has dated guys with talent some without trying to figure out where she can find a partner who is right for her. Having seen so much fighting in her Moms’ marriages, she admits that she has come out very broken and and confused. She really

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Episode 026: Triple Threat

By lifelafterdivorce|July 31, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 026: Triple Threat with special guest Karen Beach As we know, divorce affects everyone. However, it affects some more than others. For instance, I’ve been divorced twice, which is two more times than I would have liked, but it happened. If I had children, they would have been affected twice, too. So what about children of divorce who grow up and have a divorce of their own? That’s a double whammie! Now those divorced children of divorce are back out there dating and run into other divorcees. Bam! That’s a 3-pointer right there. It’s hard enough handling it from one angle, but they’re getting it from all sides. How does someone handle that? Meet Karen Beach, child of divorce, divorcee, and divorced child of divorce dating other divorcees. As we call it in theater, “she’s a triple threat!” Karen’s parents divorced when she was thirteen and her dad’s bipolar disorder was creating issues. Karen was very aware of what was happening and began to take on a lot of the household responsibilities as her parent’s focus began to change. Her father’s bipolar disorder wasn’t out in the open, but as Karen sought guidance from teachers and some independent research, she eventually figured it out.

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