Episode 076: Divorce Diaries

By Help Person|July 17, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 76: Divorce Diaries with special guest Michele Traina Meet Michele Traina a stand up comic, actor, writer and creator of Divorce Diaries Show which she has performed at Caroline’s on Broadway in NYC. Michele was performing right out of college and met her husband in between gigs. She went to grad school and got a masters in education. After she was married she wasn’t feeling fulfilled. They were married for five years and she felt she tried her best. She had her daughter in 2012 and was divorce in 2015. She wasn’t happy and wanted to be fair as possible and end it before it went down the path of cheating and lying. She wanted to be on the up and up of it all. She finally feels back to her old self. She has a theater company, does stand up, and created the Divorce Diaries show. 16:51 Michele and her husband were living together after a year and were engaged after two years. She laughs because it was her idea for him to propose to her. Her ex-husband was her first real relationship which she realizes added to the problem. Michele really wanted to get married and mentioned it to him. He proposed

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Episode 074: Independence Day

By Help Person|July 4, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 074: Independence Day with Leanne Linsky and The Boyfriend Happy Fourth of July! In honor of the holiday, let’s talk about maintaining your independence in relationships. Leanne and The Boyfriend talk about how they’ve remained, or not remained, independent. Leanne always starts out independent in relationships, but sometimes (depending on the relationship) it goes sideways. It seems like there is one person in the couple who is more independent than the other. Or as The Boyfriend says, the alpha person. Maybe one person is more invested in the relationship. Maybe it ebbs and flows as the relationship evolves over time. Independence is not the same as invested. Just because someone is independent doesn’t mean they’re not as invested in the relationship. 03:45 The Boyfriend admits that when he isn’t as invested, he does become the more dominant person. He sets the tone. 04:48 So what keeps you independent? We talked about making sure you have hobbies and and work and things to do. But having space or physical distance is everything that makes us independent. Let’s break it down. Independence has several parts – spiritual, physical space or time, emotional or mental, and financial. Spiritual independence can actually be a dealbreaker for some couples

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Episode 072: Sexy Boss Part 2 of 2

By Help Person|June 19, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 072: Sexy Boss Part 2 of 2 with special guest Heather Ann Havenwood Heather Ann Havenwood returns! We continue our conversation, picking up at her awesome calf-roping analogy. Heather was named by Huffington Post™ as one of the ‘Top 50-Must Follow Women Entrepreneurs’, is an Entrepreneur.com contributor and regarded as a top authority on digital marketing strategies and online business sales systems. Heather is a fierce and independent woman who happens to be a child of divorce and survivor of three engagements. Full Transcript: Leanne: 00:07 Welcome to episode 72. I’m your host, Liam Linsky. I’m the boyfriend. Welcome back to another wonderful week of yes. Yeah, yeah. Hey, while you’re out there tuning in, and before I forget, make sure you rate, review and subscribe. Unless of course you’re driving. We want you to be safe and if you’re safe, why not? Check out the website at life. Laughter, divorce.com. All kinds of goodness there, especially in the retail therapy section. That’s right. We haven’t talked about the soaps and candles in quite some time. Boyfriend, get your act cleaned up. People. The Boyfriend: 00:46 Yeah. Don’t use a candle. So much is getting summer-y now and I know they can be used all

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Episode 071: Sexy Boss Part 1 of 1

By Help Person|June 12, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 071: Sexy Boss Part 1 of 2 with special guest Heather Ann Havenwood Heather Ann Havenwood returns! We continue our conversation, picking up at her awesome calf-roping analogy. Heather was named by Huffington Post™ as one of the ‘Top 50-Must Follow Women Entrepreneurs’, is an Entrepreneur.com contributor and regarded as a top authority on digital marketing strategies and online business sales systems. Heather is a fierce and independent woman who happens to be a child of divorce and survivor of three engagements. Full Transcript: Leanne & BF: 00:00:09 Episode Seventy One, I am your host, Leanne Linsky, and I’m The Boyfriend. Welcome back to another wonderful week of divorce. They just keep coming and we’re excited to be here. Every time you guys. While you’re out there tuning in, make sure you rate, review, and subscribe while you’re out there not driving and you’re safely at a computer, your tablet, your phone check out life after divorce.com. We have all kinds of good stuff on there for you. So this week boyfriend, I’m really excited about our guest, uh, to catch everybody up. The last three episodes were a trilogy with Glen, Chris and misty or Glenn, Mistopher, or Christy Glen. It’s Kinda my Bradjalina-ing

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Episode 070: Thoughts from Mom-nonymous

By Help Person|June 6, 2018|Thoughts from Mom-nonymous, Uncategorized|

Episode 070: The Bride & The Best Man with special guests Chris, Misty, and Glenn The wedding is now over. A few members of the wedding party hashed over what a mistake Misty had made. They were certain her new husband was not “the one” for her. Although Chris had been friends with the Creep, he too saw many of his shortcomings. Misty had witnessed this same behavior with her Mom and step-dad and must have thought it was the norm. After some time,  Creep moved Misty away from family and her comfort zone. She was kinda stuck. She wanted to further her own education but instead took on a low paying job teaching flute. Creep was now Misty’s boss and had complete control over her. Misty was unhappy and unable to move on. She suggested that they get marriage counseling. Creep said no. He was the total breadwinner and she had no money of her own. Misty was stuck. Chris remained friends with them both. Creep invited Chris to visit them and wanted Chris to help him build a computer. During this visit Chris realized how unhappy Misty was. Eventually, Misty got the opportunity to go to California to visit her Mom and Chris. Chris and

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Episode 067: Thoughts from Mom-nonymous

By Help Person|May 8, 2018|Thoughts from Mom-nonymous, Uncategorized|

Episode 067: Episode 067: Dating Mishaps, Misconceptions, and Missed Connections with special guests Marc Adam Smith and Madeline O’Hara. Todays’ discussion was with previous guests, Marc Adam Smith and Madeline O’hara. Both are long time improv friends of Leanne. Today they shared their thoughts on dating and how some of it has changed in the past few years. First, I should mention they live in New York City. Safety is a big issue for various reasons. When it comes to technology and dating sites, you should double check the website your using or Google the person you’re interested in for more info. Sometimes you find important information that they may refrain from sharing with you. Meet in a public place and have a friend nearby to rescue you if you have doubts. Never have them come to your apartment or place of employment. If you are having too much to drink, get yourself a cab and go home. Don’t trust Uber or Lyft if you aren’t sure they are legit. Never share too much info on websites either.  Maddie shared some of the experiences she and her girlfriend have had as a gay couple. When visiting home in a southern state together, they felt they’d be frowned upon as the

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Episode 063: Deal Breakers

By Help Person|April 17, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 063: Deal Breakers with Leanne & The Boyfriend Welcome back! Leanne and The Boyfriend discuss nut cups at weddings. Leanne wanted to revisit last week’s episode when she mentioned nut cups at weddings. A friend heard Leanne say that and suggested she don’t say it again because nut cups are old and out-dated. Nobody does that anymore. Then The Boyfriend brings up Russel Crow’s jockstrap. Someone raffled it off for $8,000. 3:42 This week’s topic: Deal Breakers. Once you’ve been divorced, do your deal breakers change? And are your deal breakers different for marriage then they are for just dating? The Boyfriend feels that deal breakers change over time. Deal breakers in high school would be different then relationships later in life. Leanne didn’t go to prom with someone with the nickname Satan. She probably wouldn’t date someone who wore Crocs with socks back then. Of course, Crocs didn’t exist then either. Leanne mentions she doesn’t really like black socks with shorts. The Boyfriend said it depends on how short the shorts are. 06:29 Remember Seinfeld? Elaine dated the close talker and many other people with annoying habits. The Boyfriend said bad manners are a deal breaker for him. He doesn’t like it when

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Episode 058: Thoughts from Mom-nonymous

By Help Person|March 13, 2018|Thoughts from Mom-nonymous, Uncategorized|

Episode 058: Narcissist Abuse Support with special guest Tracy Malone Tracy Malone was your latest guest this past Tuesday. She shared her experiences with all of us. Married for close to ten years, they had a son but the marriage to this man was not really what she wanted. They divorced. After her first divorce she meets Mr. Wonderful. He’s complimentary, wines and dines her, buys her gifts, etc. He has a good job, he’s from a wealthy family, spoils her son, and loves playing the Daddy role. Even his parents preened her boy for college in the future saying they would help pay for it. When the marriage came to a halt so did the parents financial offer and so did their grandparenting days. They Divorced. For whatever reasonsTracy enters into a another relationship and it ends up being very much the same as her second marriage. Tracy is swept off her feet and months later they marry. Her co-workers were envious saying, “wow you are so lucky.” But this too fails. It ends with her in jail and then on probation. This guy had another girlfriend. After the breakup the two women meet, share their similar stories about him and become good friends. So the moral to this segment

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Episode 058: Narcissist Abuse Support

By Help Person|March 13, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 058: Narcissist Abuse Support with special Guest Tracy Malone Leanne and The Boyfriend review the question of the week and give shout outs to our followers. They announce that they are now on Pinterest. This week’s topic is….Divorce! Specifically, about learning lessons. Leanne and The Boyfriend discuss taking a step back after a break up and assessing what worked and what didn’t. What about those situations that are not so obvious? Sometimes we can get outside support and other times it takes more than that. 06:35 Tracy Malone was a victim of narcissistic abuse and has decided to educate the world on the red flags and signs of abuse. She started a YouTube channel that has reached over 350,000 all over the world, her website NarcissistAbuseSupport.com has quickly earned ratings of being in the top 50 narcissist abuse websites. She now coaches victims of abuse, hosts live support groups and her Facebook group has almost 4500 members from all over the world. Upon learning about narcissists Tracy figured out why she was a target and why her divorce was called by the judge in her case as ‘the most tortured divorce in her town’s history’. She will share with us some of her tips

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Episode 057: Fun Facts About Divorce

By Help Person|March 7, 2018|Show notes, Uncategorized|

Episode 57 Fun Facts About Divorce with Leanne & The Boyfriend Leanne and The Boyfriend did some research and share their findings! Thank you Google for some fascinating facts on Fact Retriever, Factslides, and The Talko (links to websites at the bottom of the list). Woman sued her divorce attorney because she didn’t realize a divorce would end her marriage. Most expensive divorce ever – $3.8 billion settlement, the husband stipulated that his ex-wife couldn’t spend any of the money on plastic surgery (alec Wildenstein) Couples who spend $1,000 or less on their wedding have a higher chance of staying together and those who spend over $20,000 increase their chances of divorce A woman won $3.5 million in the lottery, hid the money from her husband, and divorce her husband. Her husband later found out and sued her and she had to pay her husband 100% of her winnings. Mail order marriages are less likely to end in divorce in the US. If your commute to work is more than 45 min, you are more likely to get divorced. Russell Brand was entitled to take 20 million dollars from Katy Perry when they divorced, but he didn’t. There are 100 divorcesevery hour in the United

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