Episode 089: Reasons why relationships fail & how to avoid it with special guest Guy Finley Wondering why relationships fail? And want to know how to avoid it? Then this episode is for you! Meet Guy Finley, bestselling author of more than 45 books and audio albums on self-realization, including “The Secret of Letting Go,” “The Essential Laws of Fearless Living,” and his brand new book “Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together.” He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit Center for Spiritual Discovery located in southern Oregon where he gives talks three times each week. Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York, 1440 Multiversity, and is a regular expert contributor to Beliefnet and the Huffington Post. For more information about his new book visit www.RelationshipMagicBook.com Links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guyfinleyofficial/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/guy_finley Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guy_finley/ Book : Guy Finley’s new book Relationship Magic – Waking Up Together Full Transcript: Leanne: 00:00:08 Welcome to Life Lafter Divorce, episode 89. I am your host, Leanne Linsky The Boyfriend: 00:00:12 I’m The Boyfriend. Leanne: 00:00:12 Hey, welcome back to another wonderful week of divorce. And while you’re out there, tuning in make sure you rate, review and subscribe. And hey, why not check out
Episode 79: Marriage, Divorce, Narcissism, & Bipolar Disorder Part 1 of 2 with special guest Kirsten Watson Meet Kirsten Watson! Kirsten’s a mom, two-time divorcee, and a Long Beach Native. She shares her journey from meeting her first husband at the young age of 15 to her third husband, love, and happiness. It hasn’t been easy, but Kirsten’s grit and perseverance keep her moving forward. We learned so much from talking with her this week and hope that through her story, you know you’re not alone. 04:45 Kirsten met her first husband when she was 15 years old. They were married a couple months before her 17th birthday. Her father gave his consent. Kirsten calls her first husband the Mama’s Boy. He was very spoiled by his family and he was also a narcissist. This all became an issue later. He cut her off from all her friends and she couldn’t even talk to another man. Kirsten didn’t want to have a baby, but he insisted. Once the baby was born, he became verbally abusive and it became violent the day she left. 07:15 Kirsten was born and raised in Long Beach. Her mother wasn’t around and she was raised by her father. By the
Episode 052: Teenagers, Communication, & Divorce with special guest Julie Smith Julie Smith, a licensed psychotherapist, was today’s guest. A parent of a teenager today would learn so much information just from this podcast alone. I did. For example, the manner in which Julie and her ex handled their own divorce. They learned how to better parent their own kids during their different stages of growing up (from young kids through their teen years). Teens have their own thoughts and sometimes connect with Dad and sometimes with Mom. It’s so important to keep the communications going. Talk to them, find out what all they are dealing with. The evolution of technology has changed our world and theirs. Teens are further ahead with technology than we are. Collaborate with them. Your teen can explain what all they face on a daily basis with this (bullying, peer pressure, friendships). You can learn from them. Hopefully they will open up with you and share. They can keep you informed on these new and different websites. There is so much out their compared to what we had in our teen years. Most importantly is to always be the parent who communicates with their children. Each week Mom-nonymous shares her thoughts on the episode. Mom-nonymous
Episode 052: Teenagers, Communication, & Divorce with special guest Julie Smith Welcome to our 52nd episode! Leanne and The Boyfriend discuss technology, specifically social media. The Boyfriend is very tech savvy but has no digital footprint. Leanne, on the other hand, stays pretty current with social media. Inspired by today’s guest, Leanne did a Google search for confession sites or vent rooms. Her search turned up churches and HVAC information. After refining her search, she found Muttr.com. This is a site where you can anonymously vent about whatever it is you need to get off your chest. Site’s such as this are very popular among younger generations and if you have kids/teens, this is something you probably want to know about this. Things have changed a lot since Leanne and The Boyfriend were kids. Today’s guest really sheds some light on today’s teens. 06:52 Meet Julie Smith, licensed psychotherapist, award-winning author and featured TEDx speaker, is an expert in the study of human behavior, specifically adolescent behavior. She has created pioneering workshops and courses such as What to Do When and SpeakTeen to help parents and professionals connect with teens while also dispelling the myths of adolescent (mis)behavior. Julie, a single parent, not only works
Episode 039: Successfully Married Mom of a Divorcee with special guest Anne Leanne and The Boyfriend talk about tradition and religion’s role in the stigma of divorce. They note that many (most?) religions frown upon divorce and as a result, many people do not believe in divorce. Here in the US we combine religion in with the state laws. Leanne and The Boyfriend find it interesting that as the country has progressed in some ways, but not so much when it comes to marriage. As forward-thinking as we think are, why are we still so stuck in the old traditions of marriage? This week’s guest is Anne, wife, grandmother, and mom of a divorcee. Anne has been married for forty-five years and has one son and one daughter. Her daughter has been divorced once, and she had a tough time making that decision because she wanted her mother’s blessing. Anne has thought about divorce in her own marriage, but would never act on it. When conflicts get to the point where a couple no longer communicates, that’s when things go wrong. Anne reminds herself to step back and reassess the situation. Anne believes the first couple years you’re in the newlywed stage, then you
Episode 033: Happily Married After Divorce with special guests Tory & Andrea Chiappelli This episode was worth the listen! Tory and Andrea came out of divorce knowing (from those past experiences) what they did not want in a partner. They were free and ready to move on. They met online and on their very first date, they both felt that that they had been matched perfectly. Tory and Andrea set aside any family opinions on how they met and how fast they would marry. What mattered most was their connection. As with all marriages they did encounter together times — running a business and foster parenting. What impressed me the most is their ability to talk everything out, especially when it came to big decisions. They did not jump into repeating past ventures. It was so nice to hear the positive feelings and happiness they share as a couple. They area great role models for all divorcees. Each week Mom-nonymous shares her thoughts on the episode. Mom-nonymous is a wife, mom, and listener of Life Lafter Divorce Podcast. She’s been married for over 50 years, has never been divorced, and would like to remain anonymous.
Episode 001: Communication Breakdown (and divorce) with special guest Jim Barnes Jim Barnes, stand up comedian, host of Jim Barnes and Friends and The Sunday Night Mic at Flappers Comedy Club in Claremont, CA joins us to share his relationship experiences. Our first episode and we’re going to talk about…communication. We communicate every day to our friends, family, co-workers, strangers, everyone. It’s how we navigate our way in this crazy world. So why is it so difficult when we’re in a relationship? The Boyfriend and Leanne agree that direct communication is crucial for any relationship to survive. Hoping someone reads your mind or picks up your subtle cues just doesn’t work no matter how many times we try. Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t say it mean. It seems easy enough, but it’s amazing how many times we don’t do it. What’s holding us back from being open and honest with the one we care about most? Maybe it’s fear. Maybe it’s just not knowing any better. Either way, like any good habit, it takes practice. Then there is the other side of it. Listening, and really hearing someone -not just what we want to hear. What is the tone? What is