Episode 078: We’re Moving In Together!
Episode 78: We’re Moving In Together! With Leanne Linsky and The Boyfriend
It’s time for a BIG announcement! We’re moving in together. It’s happening this month and we want to share the process with you..
01:30 We’re getting right to the point this week. We’re moving in and it’s a big deal for us. The Boyfriend has NEVER lived with anyone that he has dated. He’s moved approximately 15 moves and had roommates, but none with a romantic interest. Leanne’s moved 28 times since she was 20. She’s lived with her husbands, of course, and we know how that turned out. Leanne also tried living with two other people, but within 3 days and the other 7 weeks, the relationships ended. So this is a big deal.
4:56 Leanne is moving into The Boyfriend’s place. The Boyfriend is wondering why she does the thing she does. He’s finding he has to let go of some of his control, and at the same time, there are some things he doesn’t want changed or moved. Leanne is thinking she’s just moving her belongings in. The Boyfriend thinks her process is random and doesn’t make sense to him.
Leanne is explaining that her process had to change because once she gave notice at her apartment, the landlord started showing it. She started boxing things up. They both have to figure out what’s going in storage and what’s staying. It’s kind of a three part move. Leanne feels pretty good that she boxed most everything up in two days.
The Boyfriend doesn’t feel like much progress has been made at all. His place is not organized yet.
9:45 They have the same outcome in mind, but two completely different ideas of how to get there. Now they also have to figure out how to share space in a very open floor plan. How will they communicate to each other when they want their alone time? What’s that look like?
The Boyfriend points out that they’re less than a block away from the beach, there’s a patios, shops, and restaurants for them to go to. But what if you don’t want to leave? One can go to the bedroom area and one can use the living room.
13:13 They both work from home and it actually works well for them. In the past they go to a coffee shop on the weekends to work together. So it’s no problem.
The Boyfriend cooks and Leanne cleans. Leanne does laundry.
14:24 The Boyfriend thinks the biggest difference is his desk is organized chaos. Leanne, on the other hand, has to have everything in it’s place. He says it looks kind of like a museum.
For example, The Boyfriend leaves all his clean dishes in his strainer. This way he doesn’t have to put them away because he uses it everyday.
Leanne puts everything away. It drives him crazy. Leanne likes things put away and likes order.
The Boyfriend thinks the entry table is a place to throw everything when he walks in the door. Leanne disagrees.
Leanne wants Donna Stellhorn to come in a Feng Shui their future permanent house. Leanne thinks that a lot of their life trauma this year has come from badFeng Shui.
18:05 The Boyfriend shares how his job happens in cycles so things get piled up as he gets into peak season. He cleans up at the end of the cycle. Leanne points out that their work space in in their main living space. It’s always on their mind and hanging over their head.
20:05 If they were moving into Leanne’s space, she’d have to make room for The Boyfriend and she would move things around. The Boyfriend says he understands, but she does some things that he doesn’t understand. She brought a painting in and put it where he was going to put a Star Wars poster. The Boyfriend clears up that this just isn’t any Star Wars poster. It’s a Star Wars poster that has been autographed by all the cast members.
22:30 What else does Leanne need to know about? The Boyfriend says she already knows it all. They’re just going to have to figure it out as they go.
Question of the week: What advice would you give them (or just The Boyfriend or just Leanne) on moving in together?
Tweetables:
Tweet: What’s the one thing your significant other owns that you’d really like to throw out? (recliner, old sweatshirt, yoga pants, etc) #ugh #eyeroll #relationships #ex #husband #wife #boyfriend #girlfriend #podcast #movingin #roomies #roomamates
Tweet: There are just so many things you don’t know about someone until you move in with them. #habits #bathroomtime #sleepwalking #breathing #ugh #eyeroll #relationships #ex #husband #wife #boyfriend #girlfriend #podcast #movingin #roomies #roomamates
Tweet: “What’s that smell? Disinfectant? It’s the cards. He washed the cards.” Roy, from the Odd Couple #habits #bathroomtime #sleepwalking #breathing #ugh #eyeroll #relationships #ex #husband #wife #boyfriend #girlfriend #podcast #movingin #roomies #roomamates
Tweet: What are your thoughts on living together? Here’s what Steve Harvey says https://youtu.be/c0VrXQcvHXw #habits #bathroomtime #sleepwalking #breathing #ugh #eyeroll #relationships #ex #husband #wife #boyfriend #girlfriend #podcast #movingin #roomies #roomamates
Tweet: “You have to let a man see what he can get but you need to let him imagine what he can have.” Steve Harvey #steveharvey #relationships #ex #husband #wife #marriage #divorce #dating #boyfriend #girlfriend #podcast #movingin #roomies https://youtu.be/c0VrXQcvHXw
Links:
Donna Stellhorn, Feng Shui Expert: http://www.fengshuiform.com/
www.lifelafterdivorce.com
www.twitter.com/lafterdivorce
https://www.facebook.com/LifeLafterDivorce/