Episode 075: Marry. Divorce. Repeat with Leanne Linsky & The Boyfriend
Episode 075: Marry. Divorce. Repeat. with Leanne Linsky & The Boyfriend
Have you OR are you willing to remarry your spouse?
02:00 Have you ever relapsed with a relationship? Gone back to the ex? Did you remarry? Leanne asks The Boyfriend and he has. He’s gone back to continue the relationship and back to someone just to hook up. It turns out it never worked out. Obviously, since he’s here with Leanne.
Boyfriend explains that when he did get back together with one of his exes, who we’ll call Marsha. Marsha turned out to be unstable and stalker-ish. This is The Boyfriend’s way of saying she’s a crazy bitch. Marsha did end up getting professional help afterward. The Boyfriend said that Marsha actually started hitting herself, literally beating herself up in front of him. He had to restrain her and her friends had to come pick herup and help out. The Boyfriend has not spoken to Marsha since.
08:32 The Boyfriend hastried making things work with some of his other exes, but people don’t change. He thinks that when we’re younger there’s more opportunity to make it work and we have a bigger chance of trying to change or make it work. But as we grown older we get more set in our ways and as The Boyfriend has gotten older, he no longer goes back.
09:50 Leanne found the opposite to be true for her. When she was younger she was less likely to go back toan ex. Once it was over, it was over. As she has gotten older she’s gone back to exes, even when it was against her better judgement, and it’s turned out to be a disaster.
11:30 The Boyfriend points out how he goes by actual data and Leanne goes by instinct.
12:41 Leanne and The Boyfriend would love to talk to a couple who married, divorced, and remarried each other. What in the world would compel you to go back? The Boyfriend wonders if it’s different if you’ve been married for a decent length of time. The amount of memories, shared experiences, and years may make a huge difference. He asks if that’s why Leanne wouldn’t ever go back to either of her husbands.
14:40 Leanne disagre
es. She may not go back to either husband who she’d been married to for over two years (together for four each), but she had reunited with someone she briefly (VERY BRIEFLY) dated in high school and that was an epic failure. And they had reunited after 25 years. Bad idea. Leanne doesn’t recommend it.
Leanne said although they didn’t have that many shared memories, they shared a common bond of high school days. There was a false sense of familiarity.
Social media can play a big factor and create a false bond between people. There’s some sort of connection or familiarity that’s created. But there’s no real shared experience, memory, or real connection. People think they know more about you than they really do.
The Boyfriend thinks that this false thing is very different than the connection he’s talking about. He’s talking about people who’ve been in a relationship together for years and have children together. They still have contact with each other, share holidays, and some even go on vacations together.
20:11 The Boyfriend said he doesn’t think he’d remarry someone if they’ve only been married five years or less. But if he’d been with someone 15-20 years, he’d probably really think about it. There’s a big history there.
21:45 Leanne said she read some survey where there’s a 72% chance of divorced couples who remarry each other work out the second time around.
22:44 Let’s talk celebrities who remarried:
- Rodney Dangerfield
- Pam Anderson
- Elon Musk
- Larry King
- Richard Pryor
- Barbara Walters
- Natalie Wood
- Melanie Griffith
- Elliott Gould
- Judge Judy
- Ben Stein
- Marie Osmond
- Dionne Warwick
- George C Scoot
- Richard Burton
- Don Johnson
Leanne shares a story about Don Johnson that really had nothing to do with Don Johnson. Her very first boyfriend wore a Miami Vice blazer. Ha.
They get back on track and Leanne and The Boyfriend wraps it up and they look forward to bringing you a guest that has actually been married, divorced, and remarried.
QUESTION OF THE WEEK: Have you ever had an reach out and want to reunite? And what was your response?
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