Episode 031: Time Out!
Episode 031: Time Out! with Leanne Linsky and The Boyfriend
Hey! This is a quickie! Leanne and The Boyfriend are taking some time out…
Leanne Linsky and The Boyfriend return after a long holiday weekend. Labor Day weekend is our last summer holiday. It’s often spent at special family outings and get-togethers, parties and bbqs with friends. This year Leanne did something different and took some extra time off from work (for a five day weekend!) to spend time on her passion project, Life Lafter Divorce. She wanted to take time to do nothing but things she wanted to do. As a result, she feels great.
Leanne thinks back to when she went back to her divorce, she would spend time alone or go visit her parents and work on projects. It was a nice get away from her normal routine.
Holidays are typically spent with friends and families, which can be difficult to be around during a divorce. Sometimes Leanne didn’t want to be social, answer questions, or be around the holiday chaos. She started seeking and appreciating time alone.
Spending time alone is a great opportunity to recharge our batteries. But sometimes it’s easier said than done. How to do we do that? Leanne and The Boyfriend give examples of sitting on the beach or going for a walk. Basically, taking time out and do something outside of her normal routine –even if it’s just for an hour.
Taking ‘me time’ can be healthy. Leanne and The Boyfriend talk about how they found free yoga in the park near them. Even though they go there together and are among up to 100 other participants, they spend the hour focusing on the yoga and the solitude it brings them. It’s very centering and relaxing. Even with the noise of traffic behind them, people surrounding them, and sometimes dogs and kids walking through, the yoga experience is somehow relaxing.
What are other ways to do this? The Boyfriend went for a 15-mile bike ride. He put on his music and enjoyed the time to focus on something new.
Holidays can be tough with mutual friends. Small talk can be so annoying, and there are always the dreaded questions. Leanne explains how this can be stressful. Taking time alone can remove anxiety, stress, tension,
Puts space in-between the events and alone time helps alleviate all the anticipation of those questions
Whatever we choose to do with it –going to the movies or for a drink, going to dinner, doing household projects, building something, putting things together — time alone offers an opportunity to rebuild confidence and bring about independence, satisfaction, and self-empowerment.
The Boyfriend reminds us that independence and confidence makes people so much more attractive.
Remember the movie Eat, Pray, Love movie? You don’t have to take a trip around the world, but you really should take time to do something.
Just a note: Notice our new website! Leanne is working on the show notes, and new pages are appearing…. new tab called “Retail Therapy.” It’s been super time consuming to get set up, but we’re hoping it will be amazing. Stay tuned for the official launch!
Question of the week: Tell us how you handled your first holiday after divorce! We want to know.
What you’ll learn:
- Taking some time to yourself is a good idea
- Taking a “time out” around the holidays is an even better idea
- Leanne and The Boyfriend try to do this regularly
- Ideas of what to do with your alone time
What you won’t learn:
- How to tell time
- What music The Boyfriend listens to while bike riding
- The Boyfriend’s true identity
Our favorite moments:
@04:35 What did Leanne & The Boyfriend do to recharge their batteries?
@05:51 Head to the beach
@05:57 Yoga in the park
@07:45 Bike Ride
@10:10 Nobody cares as much you think they do
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