Episode 013: Thoughts from Mom-nonymous
Episode 013: Be Healthy with special guest Suzy Hardy
…So without FURTHER ADO
My review on your podcast: It was different in that Suzy experienced break-up relationships versus an actual divorce.
Let me elaborate on how I look at that. That is basically lost love and time together. Where in marriage there is a stronger commitment and sometimes with religion involved and sometimes not. It is more of a process with engagement, wedding planning, bridal showers, and bachelor and bachelorette parties. Sorry I can’t spell that one.
Anyway, what I’m saying is, generally speaking…by the time the wedding takes place, a couple has spent more time together. Deciding on where to live buying furniture, house wares etc., possibly with family and friends approval. And t’s so much more than that. It’s talking over finances, bank accounts and how you handle all of that for your future years together.
A divorce involves so much more aside from heartache. Dividing all that a couple acquires, cars, house, kids, joint bank accounts. Not easy to do when you are diminishing the dreams while you are hurting. It can be a long process to get through and acquiring a lawyer only adds to expenses.
My take on a relationship: I think a couple date for a period of time, move in to one or the others space and give it a try for a while with no real intention of long-term commitment. They have fun for a while and when they tire of one another, its’ over. Maybe they had deep feelings for one another and it was great for a period of time,… ahh but there was really NO COMMITMENT. Nothing lost but hurt feelings for the rejected.
To sum up what I’m saying –you can’t compare apples to oranges.
Not to say that the loss and hurt are much different. I’m sure the healing process is the same and takes time as Suzy shared with you and your listeners.
PS. The Boyfriend –I do want to thank you. You answered one questioned that I had wondered about for years. You said that a lot of guys heal their pain after a break-up with one-night-stands. Thanks for clearing that up for me.
Each week Mom-nonymous shares her thoughts on the episode. Mom-nonymous is a wife, mom, and listener of Life Lafter Divorce Podcast. She’s been married for over 50 years, has never been divorced, and would like to remain anonymous.
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