Surprise! Surprise! King of the One Liners, Barry Weisenberg, returns to share with us. Today Barry has found happiness with The Very Best Woman Ever (we’ll refer to her as The Girlfriend from this point forward). They met on Match.com. The girlfriend, now divorced, had been married for 20 years with two children. Both she and Barry knew on their first date that it felt right. Barry was single after a ten-year relationship, which gave him a son. Barry shares custody with his ex. Now that relationship is behind him, has finally found THE ONE. They are immensely happy with one another. The Girlfriend has updated his look, cooks for him, and can do his comedy if needed. She enjoys seeing him perform. What could be better than that for a comic? The Girlfriend even likes his son and enjoys spending time with him. Sounds like everything is right for the two of you. It’s better than winning at Bingo! Sorry, Barry, even this blogger can be funny. I do wish you both the best. Each week Mom-nonymous shares her thoughts on the episode. Mom-nonymous is a wife, mom, and listener of Life Lafter Divorce Podcast. She’s been married for over 50 years, has never been divorced, and would like
Episode 098: Moving on After Divorce with special guest David J. Glass, JD, PhD J D Glass Family Law Attorney and Author of a Best Selling Book “Moving On” was an especially informative guest this week. Not only is David an attorney, but he’s also has a degree in Psychology. He worked as a therapist, but decided that law better suited him. He and his first met while in law school. They married, had two daughters, and lived in Philadelphia. A few years later they moved to California which offered big promises. His wife went into Real Estate and David practiced family law. They drifted apart and both agreed it was time to move on. The two of them worked out custody issues for their girls and had an amicable divorce. Being single again meant getting back into a social network with friends in his free time. Prior to divorce, David and his wife went to couples therapy and learned how to work things out in a new way. It was a smart thing to do. They brainstormed solutions instead of knocking heads over one. Loved your idea of holding the egg and how to agree who has the bigger issue right now and deal with that
Episode 096: The Funny Thing About Relationships with Barry Weisenberg This week’s guest, Barry Weisenberg, “King of One Liners” Stand Up Comedian, tells how relationships affect comedy and vise versa. On board with this is Leanne Linsky, another Stand Up Comic. They compare notes and The Boyfriend joins in with lots of questions. What a fun episode this was! Comedy is a science which takes a lot of thought, writing, and reflection of moments in their lives. For Barry, it goes back to his childhood, bullying, and rejection. Barry said that at times he had really low self esteem, depressen, and even thoughts of suicide. Relationships can also affect us that way. However, these two comics share more in their comedic skills. While waiting in the wings to go on stage and observing other comics they learn so much. When a comic bombs, and they have all done that at one time or another, they relate to that feeling. They will encourage that comic to come back and do something new next time. The more you perform the more you learn. Sometimes doing comedy makes for short relationships. The nightly hours don’t always work. Significant others have to enjoy your humor and talent. It takes
Ep 095: Breaking Relationship Patterns with special guest Johanna Lynn, Founder of The Family Imprint Institute This week’s guest is Johanna Lynn, founder of The Family Imprint Institute. I found her to be one of the most informative guests on your show. Her approach is so smart and gets to the heart of dealing with your own family history and the patterns before you in your lifetime. The center of where your feelings and interactions begin. Family influences and past pain and how you dealt with it create patterns for years to come. While working through stress and broken relationships or marriage, take the time to grieve and get rid of your anger. You can’t move on without healing your own wounds. Set new goals and become clear on what you really want. With things resolved in your personal life, you’ll have time to laugh, intimacy, and fun. Prioritize time for your work. Stay embodied in yourself and always trust your gut instincts. Each week Mom-nonymous shares her thoughts on the episode. Mom-nonymous is a wife, mom, and listener of Life Lafter Divorce Podcast. She’s been married for over 50 years, has never been divorced, and would like to remain anonymous.
Episode 094: Divorce Attorney’s Helpful Holiday Guide with special guest Caroline Krauss-Browne Divorce attorney Caroline Krauss Browne had so much information to share with us today. She specializes in family law. She stated that social media has eroded us from reality in so many ways. I loved hearing her thoughts and advice where children are involved especially during the holidays. Divorce is especially hard at this time. Preparing for divorce and getting one’s papers and documents in order takes lots of time and good organization. When you need, help ask for guidance from your attorney that is why you hire one. They will navigate you through the process and you will have a smoother transition. Don’t stay in a mediocre marriage for the sake of the children unless you are sure you both can agree on making it work. Each week Mom-nonymous shares her thoughts on the episode. Mom-nonymous is a wife, mom, and listener of Life Lafter Divorce Podcast. She’s been married for over 50 years, has never been divorced, and would like to remain anonymous.
Episode 092: Narcissist Relationships Part 2 of 2 Healing After Abuse with special guest Susan Ball Now I get it! Susan, this was the day you realized it was time to get help. In the heat of an argument, when he tried to strangle you, you ran out the front door and ran five blocks to the police station with your husband behind you. He got arrested and spent the night in jail. However…Surprise! Surprise! His girlfriend bailed him out. Susan did not know about the girlfriend until now. In conversations with her sister, Susan’s sister says, “Well I blame you. If you really want out, you need to move away and never see him again. You do not want your girls to see more of this.” Indeed, it was a time for smart decisions. This left Susan with raw emotions, guilt, shame, and confusion. Healing was needed and she had much to deal with. Susan hired a life coach who encouraged her to start a success journal. She was encouraged to write about each achievement, celebrate, and keep moving on. Have your rages and your weeping times. It helps to release your emotions. Susan has shared some of her healing with her daughters so
Episode 091: Narcissist Relationships Part 1 of 2 Identifiying Behaviors with special guest Susan Ball Susan Bell, an expert in narcissist relationships, shared her expertise on this subject today. She also shared her told her personal experience. A narcissist: is super complimentary and immediately in love with you says all exes were super bitchy and loves to talk bad about them wants to marry you will want to move away from your friends and family of course, calls you sweetie or baby etc, just like all the women in his past. You are now one of many before you. wants children and now you become stay at home Mom , lucky you! goes out whenever he wants but not you. He’s cheating he will spend time on dating sights in public/n front of people he pretends to be an adoring husband but behind closed doors will beat you if you don’t give him sex very abusive verbally and put you down and makes fun of you And last but not least, is an out and out liar So Susan, I am looking forward to your Part 2 and learning more. You did leave us on what I call “A Cliffhanger” Each week Mom-nonymous shares her
Episode 090: Divorcing a Narcissist with special guest Leanne Townsend Leanne Townsend is an attorney in Toronto, Canada. Her expertise is domestic and victim advocacy. She is also a life coach. She is especially good at guiding clients through divorce and knows the smart way to go about it. When you know it’s time to get out, one of the first things to do is get every single document, social security numbers, passport, bank statements (both checking and savings), investments, etc. out of reach or access to partner. Don’t escalate into confrontation and don’t tell partner you are leaving. Get your ducks in a row and get out when he is not home. In some cases, the only contact you should have with the narcissist is through your attorney. Most of the time it’s important that you cannot be reached by him. Protect yourself and get coaching to guide you all the way. Get the support that you need, and if you need a financial planner, get one. Do this in a smart and safe manner, get on with your life, and be happy. Great advice. Each week Mom-nonymous shares her thoughts on the episode. Mom-nonymous is a wife, mom, and listener of Life Lafter Divorce Podcast. She’s
Episode 089: Reasons why relationships fail & how to avoid it with special guest Guy Finley Guy Finley is an author and has written 45 books. His recent book is the subject today and the title is “Relationship Magic, Waking up together”. Guy briefed us on its content – why relationships fail and how to avoid it. We all need self understanding on our own imperfections, especially in the heat of a disagreement. Lashing back inflicts anger and pain and goes back and forth. How do you make it better? Love is absent in the moment, and you are both in pain. You both need self-understanding and love is how to move past this. Love unites and brings you back together. . Harmony in nature already exists in you and it awakens in you. Your single most important resource is our truthful self. Your partner is a reflection of oneself. Harmony in a relationship is vital to move forward. I enjoyed his thoughts on this subject it does bring awareness in oneself. Each week Mom-nonymous shares her thoughts on the episode. Mom-nonymous is a wife, mom, and listener of Life Lafter Divorce Podcast. She’s been married for over 50 years, has never been divorced, and would
Episode 088: Create financial independence and master your money mindset with special guest Estelle Gibson Estelle Gibson is a CPA and an expert on money management. While growing up, her Dad was the breadwinner and he handled all the money. He influenced her on banking and the importance of saving. However, she later became aware that her Mother had a stash for herself. Estelle got an education on money management and she did well. When she got married her husband said he would be happy to be the breadwinner. Estelle could stay home and he would take on the role of money manager. Estelle was happy to let him. RED FLAG No.1. Never make that mistake. It’s giving up your power. You need to have separate bank accounts, credit cards, and spending money. Investing in a home is different and you need to agree on payments HOA fees, utilities,and taxes. You need to know that all of this is paid regularly. At tax time you may need a consultant to help you do this. If it becomes too difficult to follow, hire a financial advisor. When it comes to money, the two of you need to be onboard in all aspects of your spending and investments. Learn