If you’ve ever lived in New York, you might have found yourself looking forward to someone asking you how to get to Carnegie Hall just so you can respond with the age-old punchline, “Practice!” Funny because it’s true. In a world of fast food, fast cars, instant coffee, and instant messaging, we’ve grown impatient. We want it all and we want it now, especially that end result, without experiencing all the practice opportunities in-between. I know I have. When I was in grade school, my friend Britney (not her real name), played the piano. She could read music and play all the popular songs I’d heard on the radio. I remember how effortlessly her fingers hit the keys while she played. She made it look easy. I thought she was so cool. “I can do that,” I thought. I dreamt of playing the piano like a rockstar in front of friends and family. Yeah, I wanted to be cool. After several years of hounding my parents, I was rewarded with a piano and lessons from Britney’s piano teacher, Ms. Sparkle (not her real name). Then I promptly learned about the myth of overnight success. Ms. Sparkle started teaching me how to read music and play
I’ve been noticing that sometimes we get so caught up in finishing a task or accomplishing a goal, we miss out on all the good stuff in-between. I often witness my clients getting impatient and growing frustrated when things don’t turn out perfectly the first time. I totally get it. And, it’s awesome. Because that’s exactly when good things start to happen. It reminds me of when I ran my first half marathon last February. It was terrible! It was so bad that when I received the professional photos a few weeks later, I immediately filed them in the archives never to be seen again. Yikes! I started training for it in September. Although I used to run pretty regularly, I had never run more than 3 miles a day. I knew that running a race was going to be different so I did a little research. I found a suitable schedule, recruited my neighbor to join me on the long runs each weekend, and even met up with a few local running groups along the way. In just a couple of months, I started to feel better and more confident in running. I began to eat healthier and lost a few pounds. And you
I keep hearing people say how we should push through our fear. “Just push through the fear!”, they say. But should we really do that? And what would be the point of a good scary movie if we ignored fear? Fear is a human emotion tied to the very animal instinct and intuition that helps protect us. It alerts us when we are in clear and present danger. Fear is like the best friend who yells, “Look out!” just in time so I don’t get hit by a car (or step in that giant pile of dog poop). I’m pretty sure you’d agree that this is a friend we want to keep around. Of course, fear has also been known to show its face when we sense a social danger, real or imagined, or a previous danger triggered by past experience. This fear is like a friend who calls and tells me all the reasons I shouldn’t quit my job or write a tell-all book about my dating life. Do I push our friend (aka fear) aside? Do I try to ignore her…and do that thing anyway? Hell no! She’s my friend and I trust her. So instead, I get curious. What are her reasons?
Part 3 of My Tidy Experiment This is the third part in a series of posts. Click here to read Part 1 and Part 2. Marie Kondo’s tidy little book on tidying packs a powerful punch and I’m taking the hit. It’s been several weeks, maybe even a month since I first started my tidy experiment. As I dig deeper into this whole process, I realize there are several reasons I’m doing it. I’m doing this to better my coaching. I’m a believer of not asking of others what you’re not willing to do yourself. When I coach my clients on environmental design, I want to know all aspects of the process so we can create a winnable game. I’m also ready for some big changes in my life and what better place to start than in my own home? I’ve set some big goals for myself and my life coaching practice in 2019. In order to achieve those dreams, I need to set myself up for success. As I look around my home, it doesn’t reflect Leanne the Life Coach as much as it reflects Leanne in Transition. Partly because I never unpacked when I moved into this home, and partly because I’m surrounded
Everyone’s discovering the secret of tidying up with Tidy Expert & Author, Marie Kondo. This is the second part in a series of posts. Click here to read Part 1. A few weeks ago I jumped on the tidy train. I began with my closet, and I’m happy to report it’s still intact. However, I will admit that I’m having some challenges with my sweaters. Like my old teenage self, they’re rebelling and won’t conform. Besides gaining insight into my clothes, I’m learning more about this whole tidy process. Tidying is more fun with the two of us. As I mentioned at the end of Part 1 in this blog series, The Boyfriend was impressed with my tidy closet and suggested we KonMari his closet, too. So we spent a romantic Friday evening doing just that. I’m pretty sure there’s a joke here about tidy whities, but in an effort to keep it brief, we’ll just go commando. The Boyfriend and I removed everything from his closet and believe it or not, he had almost as many clothes as me. His wardrobe consists of well over one hundred t-shirts, half of which were purchased for sentimental reasons and rarely, if ever, worn. Who am I
Everyone’s discovering the secret of tidying up with Tidy Expert & Author, Marie Kondo. So I jumped on the Tidy Train, too. This is the first post in a series. Click here to read My Tidy Experiment Part 2. As a life coach, I’m spending a lot of time observing and learning about both the conscious and subconscious effects of our environment. Thanks to my own unique situation, I’ve been personally obsessed with this particular notion for the past several months. Although our environment is made up of nine different parts, our physical surroundings are probably the first thing we think about when we hear the word “environment”. There are many ways to assess our surroundings, and since everyone including my clients have been talking about the latest craze of tidying up, I thought it’d be fun to experiment with it. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve no doubt heard about Marie Kondo and her “Japanese art of decluttering and organizing” (also called the KonMarie Method). Enthusiastically jumping on the bandwagon, I picked up a copy of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. It was an easy read and by the time I finished, it was as if I were
Life Lafter 2018 is looking good! Hello 2019! Hey friends! It’s me, Leanne, and I can’t tell you how relieved and excited I am for the new year. Last year was filled with unexpected surprises, new challenges that demanded growth, and opportunities to try new things. As a result, I have some big plans for 2019 and I’d love to share them with you. First, I’ve already made some changes to the business. In case you hadn’t noticed, we have a new logo! I loved the last one, but I feel we’ve evolved and I wanted something that reflects where we are going rather than where we’ve been. This new logo does exactly that. You may have noticed that I also dropped divorce from the name. Divorce has played a big role in my life, but it doesn’t define me…or my business. It’s time to spread these wings! Go ahead and check out the new and improved website. I’m still making some tweaks here and there – like everything, it’s a work in progress. Since beginning this entrepreneurial journey in 2014, I’ve learned a ton. My experience with divorce and love for performing is what got me on this path. But my vision has evolved as I learned from