I’ve been noticing that sometimes we get so caught up in finishing a task or accomplishing a goal, we miss out on all the good stuff in-between. I often witness my clients getting impatient and growing frustrated when things don’t turn out perfectly the first time. I totally get it. And, it’s awesome. Because that’s exactly when good things start to happen. It reminds me of when I ran my first half marathon last February. It was terrible! It was so bad that when I received the professional photos a few weeks later, I immediately filed them in the archives never to be seen again. Yikes! I started training for it in September. Although I used to run pretty regularly, I had never run more than 3 miles a day. I knew that running a race was going to be different so I did a little research. I found a suitable schedule, recruited my neighbor to join me on the long runs each weekend, and even met up with a few local running groups along the way. In just a couple of months, I started to feel better and more confident in running. I began to eat healthier and lost a few pounds. And you
I keep hearing people say how we should push through our fear. “Just push through the fear!”, they say. But should we really do that? And what would be the point of a good scary movie if we ignored fear? Fear is a human emotion tied to the very animal instinct and intuition that helps protect us. It alerts us when we are in clear and present danger. Fear is like the best friend who yells, “Look out!” just in time so I don’t get hit by a car (or step in that giant pile of dog poop). I’m pretty sure you’d agree that this is a friend we want to keep around. Of course, fear has also been known to show its face when we sense a social danger, real or imagined, or a previous danger triggered by past experience. This fear is like a friend who calls and tells me all the reasons I shouldn’t quit my job or write a tell-all book about my dating life. Do I push our friend (aka fear) aside? Do I try to ignore her…and do that thing anyway? Hell no! She’s my friend and I trust her. So instead, I get curious. What are her reasons?