Episode 039: Thoughts from Mom-nonymous

By lifelafterdivorce|October 31, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|0 comments

Episode 039: Successfully Married Mom of a Divorcee with special guest Anne In listening in to yesterdays podcast, I came to the conclusion that there is a big difference in marriage between our generations. Your guest is also a mom of a divorcee. After listening, I realize that she and I have many similarities – from our beliefs of marriage to the reasons why ours have been long-lasting. We grew up in a different era and in a different society with a different way of thinking. We raised our children similarly and instilled our ideas in them. But long gone are the days of children addressing adults as Mr. and Mrs. That’s old fashioned, and so is our way of evaluating a good marriage. The world around us has changed. Religion in ones’ wedding ceremony commitment does not make it everlasting the way our parents had always thought and believed. Woman work today, and some with better paying jobs than their husbands. They too, are smart. Divorce can sometimes be the only way to bring happiness back into one’s life. When our children tell us they are going to take this step, it is up to us as parents to listen and understand their reasoning. Being

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Episode 039: Successfully Married Mom of a Divorcee

By lifelafterdivorce|October 31, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|0 comments

Episode 039: Successfully Married Mom of a Divorcee with special guest Anne Leanne and The Boyfriend talk about tradition and religion’s role in the stigma of divorce. They note that many (most?) religions frown upon divorce and as a result, many people do not believe in divorce. Here in the US we combine religion in with the state laws. Leanne and The Boyfriend find it interesting that as the country has progressed in some ways, but not so much when it comes to marriage. As forward-thinking as we think are, why are we still so stuck in the old traditions of marriage? This week’s guest is Anne, wife, grandmother, and mom of a divorcee. Anne has been married for forty-five years and has one son and one daughter. Her daughter has been divorced once, and she had a tough time making that decision because she wanted her mother’s blessing.   Anne has thought about divorce in her own marriage, but would never act on it. When conflicts get to the point where a couple no longer communicates, that’s when things go wrong. Anne reminds herself to step back and reassess the situation. Anne believes the first couple years you’re in the newlywed stage, then you

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Episode 038: Modern Split Part 2 of 2

By lifelafterdivorce|October 24, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|0 comments

Episode 038: Modern Split with special guest Claire McCarthy Leanne and The Boyfriend review the Question of the Week from episode 37. Claire McCarthy,  Founder and CEO of Modern Split, is back! Claire is a certified divorce coach and former family law paralegal with nearly twenty years in and around the judicial system. Modern Split provides tips, tools and resources that don’t require a law degree to understand. Modern Split was founded on a simple premise. “See a need. Fill a need.” – Big Weld. Robots 2005. Modern Split has a great website that really shows you what they’re all about. They’re straightforward and candid. They offer support and resources, but don’t sugarcoat anything. They’re not for everyone. They are not going to bash men or screw over your husband. It’s not women versus men. They do empower women, but it’s not about hating the other side. When Claire went through her own divorce, her attorney reminded her, “Hey, I’m just going to remind you, you married him.” It was a good reminder for her. She needed to take som ownership in this. It wasn’t always bad. “I have to remember this wasn’t always DEF CON 5.” “Getting a divorce sucks, but being divorced doesn’t

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Episode 037: Modern Split Part 1 of 2

By lifelafterdivorce|October 17, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|0 comments

Episode 037: Modern Split Part 1 of 2 with special guest Claire McCarthy Leanne and The Boyfriend have a big episode for you this week! Get ready to take some notes! As you probably already know, divorce can be expensive. Leanne and The Boyfriend did a little research and found out the most and least expensive divorce states. Check it out for yourself by doing a quick Google search or click on this handy link we found: https://www.cbsnews.com/media/the-cheapest-and-costliest-states-to-divorce/ But this may not be the most current info. We’re using it as a jumping off point. Meet our guest Claire McCarthy,  Founder and CEO of Modern Split, unpacks a TON of ‘must know’ information in this episode! Claire is a certified divorce coach and former family law paralegal with nearly twenty years in and around the judicial system. Modern Split provides tips, tools and resources that don’t require a law degree to understand. Modern Split was founded on a simple premise. “See a need. Fill a need.” – Big Weld. Robots 2005. Claire was married for almost ten years and has been divorced about ten years. Her business, Modern Split, is not a product of her divorce. She has been in the legal field for years

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Episode 036: Thoughts from Mom-nonyous

By lifelafterdivorce|October 10, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|0 comments

Episode 036: Free to do what I want with special guest Anonyme Such an interesting podcast today. Your guest shared her very different views and taught us all how France does marriage differently. I had only heard about a pact a couple of podcasts ago, your guest clarified it so nicely today. Her first marriage was to a French Basketball Player and she was young. She and her her brother married on the same day, he in a church and her in the courthouse. It was a double wedding and the family celebrated. She was married to a guy who was famous and she soon felt she had lost her own identity. They eventually divorced. Anonyme visited America and liked the opportunities here. She met an American man and was married to him for 3 years. They are still friends even though he did remarry. A few years later this sexy blonde French woman met number three. He was a businessman who provided for her very well. They had a son. Her husband very committed to his work, and Anonyme finished her education and got her degree. She and her son traveled the world together. Tired of belonging to someone, she divorced number three after eleven

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Episode 036: I’m Free To Do What I Want

By lifelafterdivorce|October 10, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|0 comments

Episode 036: I’m Free To Do What I Want with special guest Anonyme Leanne and The Boyfriend catch up on the previous week’s “Question of the Week”. And…they give some shout outs to all who commented on Instagram. The Boyfriend and Leanne discuss dating traditional people in the past. The women The Boyfriend has dated in the past have had a timeline, agenda, and/or expectations. For example, we date, get married, have kids by a certain age, etc. It doesn’t necessarily work out for The Boyfriend because he’s gone down a different path in his life. Leanne on the other hand, graduated college, got married, attempted to start a family, etc. It just seemed like the natural flow of a relationship and life. That’s just what people do. Right? But does that flow of life work in today’s society? So many things in the world have changed, but somehow we expect relationships to remain the same. Is that a contributing factor to the high divorce rate? People change jobs all the time today. People move and change houses. Why wouldn’t they change their relationships, too? How has our life purpose changed? So many questions! Meet our guest, Ms. Anonyme (that’s Anonymous in French!). She’s been

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Episode 035: Thoughts from Mom-nonymous

By lifelafterdivorce|October 3, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|0 comments

Episode 035: Single Moms Planet with special guest Neferteri Plessy Neferti Plessy is divorced with two boys. She was fortunate to have great support from family and friends during the process. She found that she had to address a few little issues with her sons. For example, Mom does not have to take care of all your needs. Ask your Dad to buy school supplies and take care of some of your needs. Dad can handle getting necessary items for your different sports etc. Neferteri also taught her sons how to really discuss their school day and friendships with her on a daily basis. Neferteri also learned how she could get time for herself –which is so important. During this process she came up with a great idea for a “100 Single Moms Brunch” That was beginning of something bigger. So many woman connected with one  another. They all had different needs and backgrounds, but now had a safe place that offered compassion and help.Some babysat for one another, and some even moved in together. It’s time to quit beating yourself up, take classes, make better choices and move on. Neferti is such an an amazing woman. She’s founded Single Mom’s Planet and created Single Mom’s Awards.

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Episode 035: Single Moms Planet

By lifelafterdivorce|October 3, 2017|Show notes, Uncategorized|0 comments

Episode 035: Single Moms Planet with special guest Neferteri Plessy Yaassss! Leanne and The Boyfriend announce the opening of the online store. Be sure to check out our retail therapy page! Meet Neferteri Plessy, Founder and CEO of Single Moms Planet. Neferteri is a single mom of two young boys, divorcee, and ready to take on the world! She’s been divorced seven years and was married for five. Divorce is definitely a lot easier now that time has passed and she’s found ways to manage single motherhood. Once the shock of divorce wore off, Neferteri found that she has more support than ever. Although Neferteri is a divorcee, she is strong believer of marriage. She shares tips on setting boundaries without being harsh and gives examples. Being specific with asks, giving dates and times, and making sure people understand the boundary are key to success as a single mom. The more specific we are the better, and men tend to be okay with that. Subtlety doesn’t work. (The Boyfriend agrees!) Women lead with emotion and think men should understand how they feel. Men don’t think that way. (Again, The Boyfriend agrees!) The boundaries extend to your kids. Neferteri gives us examples how kids always seem

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